What Makes a Good Wife because I ain’t from the 50’s

I somedays think my husband would prefer me to be a “Good Wife”. You know the kind of wife I am talking about, have dinner ready and on the table by the time he gets home in the evening, because what man would not love that?

I started googling what is was to be a wife in the 50’s and found this awesome Youtube video.

The other gem that I found was…

The Good Wife’s Guide

From Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955.

The text in this image isn’t very clear so I have copied it for you to easily read:

  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
  • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
  • Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

Ready this made the feminist in me jump up and down screaming at the MAN who wrote this, because no women every will write crap like this. So i decided to make my own little list to be the “Modern Good Wife” but I will split the list in two section what I agree with and what I will change.

1950’s I can live with sort of:

  • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. – I like planning my meals ahead and mostly cooking.
  • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables. – My kids and I generally clean up in the afternoons.
  • Be happy to see him. – Always, “Hi honey so happy to see you, welcome home… here are YOUR children, they are driving me crazy!”
  • Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night… – I don’t complain, that is if he calls to let me know he is running late or going out.
  • A good wife always knows her place. – In charge or everything…

1950’s screw you: 

  • Prepare yourself… – Fill the bath and get in as he opens the front door and have him deal with all craziness that is our home.
  • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him… – I’m thinking an episode of Downton Abbi might make it seem like I am listening.
  • During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by… – In my house this is the husband’s job, he fills water bottles and put heaters/fan on when needed.
  • Minimize all noise…Encourage the children to be quiet… – screw that! Children please scream at the top of your lungs. I do not believe in children should be seen and not heard crap.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him… – No comment
  • Listen to him…his topics of conversation are more important than yours. – When else am I suppose to let him know that the vacuum is broke, the dog at my fav shoes and one of the kids are stuck on the roof?
  • Don’t greet him with complaints and problems. – Refer to my previous note
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. – In what world, not happening in mine.
  • …Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. – Yes so that he can’t hear me over the noise of the children?
  • …the master of the house…You have no right to question him. – I am a modern wife and that makes me the master of the house.

We have come a long way in the last 60 years and I thank God everyday that I was not born in that era. 5 of the 15 things listen I can sort of deal with.

Would you like living in the 50’s under those rules?

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