We all tell a lie at some point or another, its human…. Right?
Yesterday afternoon when I collected Amandalynn from my grans house it felt a bit weird that she claimed hockey practise was cancelled because it was cold. I asked some questions and joked about checking with her teacher because I know my daughter won’t really lie to me, until she started crying.
First my reaction was I’m just joking thinking that I have upset her, but then I realised she was just caught in a lie. My heart broke in an instant.
Side note: Amandalynn has a cell phone that she takes with to school, so that if sport is cancelled or what not she can call us to fetch her.
I spoke to her about how it’s not ok to lie and how if she misses practise teacher is going to think she doesn’t care if she is A or C team and she will then end up in the C team. But I could see that she wasn’t listening to a single word, I turned the car around and when back to my grans house and made her confess her lie and apologise to my grandpa for lying to him.
Is it bad that I felt that it wasn’t enough of a punishment? I considered taking her new phone/toys/life away but that wasn’t a punishment to fit the crime….until we drove past the school and I got a peek at her team busy with practise.
I stop the car, made her get out and marched her onto to field, straight to her team and her teacher. I told her confess to her teacher/team and apologise for not coming to practise. My child was not impressed. Her teacher understood what I was trying to achieve and without missing a beat told her if it happens again she will be in the C team.
Amandalynn promises to never lie about practise again.
Have this ever happened to you? How would you have handled the situation? Do you think I did the right thing?
*sorry about the spelling errors this was typed on an Samsung
*I asked Amandalynn if I could blog about this and she said ok, like she didn’t care.
After thought add in: Eleanor just pointed out that I never told you why she lied… Because her legs were cold and she didn’t want to be cold.