When I got to the school it was only me and the teacher, the principal will apparently get involved if we cannot sort things out. My first reaction (in my head) we are not fighting like children over toys!!! But I left it did my calming breathing and went into the class room.
All hell broke loose as I asked her if my child is a problem in her class and she kept talking about the letter I wrote and how unhappy she is about it. After about 5 min of her unhappiness (who really gives a F**K if you happy or not) I tried to get a word in as I was not longer listening to her ranting (yes my bad) and she started screaming t me!!! SCREAMING and speaking to me like I’m the child in her class, a couple of times I asked her please calm down and answer my question “is my child a problem” and she kept ranting so I completely lost it and told her to shut the hell up. Needless to say that did not shock her enough to stop for breath. Again I told her if she does not stop right now I will leave this room and go speak to the principal as she is clearly not capable. I am not one of the children in her class, I am the parent and she will treat me with respect or not at all.
She calmed down. She answered my question (with a hell of a lot of attitude) “Your child is the biggest problem”
I asked her to give me examples of how. She said that Amandalynn doe snot listen or does as she is told.
I speak to her teacher at least once a week and I ask her about Amandalynn and how her manners are, it is always fine.
I asked her since when is this a problem and her response from the beginning of the year but it has gotten worse in the last 2-3 months. I freaked!!! I asked her why she has not contacted me or said anything (this part just grates my balls) “she tried to handle the situation”.
Things calmed down a bit and we started talking about her work and that I’m worried about how it has gone from good to bad and then the most horrible thing happen, she took out some of her work. My child draws black faces for the last 2 months on all girls’ faces. Boys are normal and happy but little and big girls are black. The teacher asked her about it yesterday and she said that the little girls are her sister because she hurts her. I am aware of the fact that Lorelai (age 1) hits her sister, but in the beginning I sorted out Lorelai and that did not work so I told Amandalynn to sort her out or I remove Lorelai from the situation. What more can I do?
The big girl one of my big concern, her name is Carla and she lives with her grandmother Nora and goes to school on the farm. We don’t know a Carla any of us.
The teacher will now be a bit softer with my child as it is clear that there is bigger issues her than just behavior.
Just a bit of background: Nora is Amandalynn’s fathers mother, they don’t see her anymore as they could not give a flying F about her. Her father does not even try and her Nora only speaks to her when I call on Amandalynn’s request and on Christmas and her birthday. Lorelai’s father and I split 3 months ago and the girls and I moved back to my parents, Lorelai goes to her dad 2 times a week and Amandalynn has the option of going if she wants to, she never wants to go because I’m not going.
I’m lost for words; I don’t know what to do about all of this. For the first time I can really say that I’m fucking stuck. I have tried to do everything to make things easy for Amandalynn all the changes and everything else. But clearly what I was thinking is good was not.
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